So I met up with my dad I was so nervous leading up, I took up smoking again!
I am on conception which makes it so I don't menstruate.... I started bleeding out of stress (it's happened a few times when I get really stressed) eww anyway.
The day came and we met at a park. He was there and his partner. I was there with hubs and my 3 kids.
Things were awkward. Dad and I chatted alright. I was trying to talk and engage with his partner but we didn't really get anywhere.
Then dad and I went for a drive to get food and to "talk" about the issues we had.
I let him speak and I took it in and truly apologised and plan in working with it.
When it was my turn. My dad said I was talking bullshit and that he only screamed at me when I was doing something stupid. (Dude my dad would literally fly off the handle about split milk) I also said he belittles me. He asked for occasions where he did that.... it is all the time I couldn't just pull one incident out my arse.
THEN! He had a go at my mum he said "your mother, I am just so mad at her and I will never speak to that woman again, the way you and your brother are now are her fault"
Ok hold up. My mother raised on her own a mentally fucked up child (me) and a disabled son (my bro) all on her own ok... cut her some slack! I wouldn't be standing if I didn't have mum all those years she is a fucking saint.
She even had the amount my dad owed her every month for caring for us lowered because he couldn't afford it. They got along so well until dads boyfriend started getting jealous.
Dad was cunning he said the stuff about mum while we were getting out of the car so I couldn't have a rebuttal in front of the kids. So all I did was shed tears (I had sun glasses on so no one could see) dad walked ahead and hubby came up to me and I said I wanted to go home. Hubby then said stay strong for the kids.
I again tried to talk to dads partner but we were getting no where.
I invited dad and his partner to see my new house, his partner didn't come...how ever my brother came just to stand in so dad didn't do his usually rip me to shreds.
Things were good it was like old times. Chatted and laughed talked about what we've been up to and stuff!
Then he came over another day and same thing.... was like old times.
So I'll guess we will just keep it as it is.
At least he and I are speaking.
